A sociopath goes to the greatest of lengths to survive by using others for his or her own gain usually causing much internal emotional havoc.
“Ever since I visited Dr Robert Hare in Vancouver, I can see them, the
psychopaths”-Robert Hercz
The sociopathic manipulator, also known as a
psychopath, is a human being who lacks any and all emotion, remorse, guilt, or
any feelings whatsoever. Due to their lack of emotional attachment to the world
and what’s around them, they have no interest in anything except the emotions
of other people, and how other people live their lives and react to every
aspect of this world. The emotions of others fascinate them for they know not
of such a thing. Because of this curiosity, they are driven to manipulate
people by their emotions that “hold them back” and set back to watch how the
person (pawn/victim) handles what they are put through. Also this drives them to have to find a way to
survive as what they are (sociopathic) and to keep them from being discovered;
and what better way to do that than by doing what they know best? Manipulate.
The process of gaining, using, and disposing of people they control (here on
referred to as either pawns or victims) is a potentially lengthy and risky but
destructive process that only a sociopath would be able to pull off with ease.
A sociopath excels in the ability to gain people’s
interest and trust by promising hopes and dreams that they cannot obtain
themselves, doing this to lure and deceive people into his scheme.
Fiona McColl writes in her article Eight Ways to Spot Emotional Manipulation “If
you ask them to do something they will almost always agree – that is IF they
didn’t already volunteer to do it first.” He begins by appearing subtly
charming to attract and deceive a victim. He tries to see the weaknesses of
these people so he can con and convince them with what they desire, promising
power most of the time, but are incapable of achieving on their own. These
cravings lead to “victims” deeper into the control of the sociopath.
Fiona also says
“When you tell them it doesn’t seem like they want to do whatever – they will
turn it around and try to make it seem like OF COURSE they wanted to and how
unreasonable you are.” Through the charm and deception of people by luring in
and showing compassion, especially the ones that could protect or advance his
position, he excels in his game and becomes almost invulnerable in his own
mind. This ego causes him to seem very secure and charming to those around him,
when really he is just happy his game is progressing as predicted.
In conclusion, the
game a sociopath plays to ensure his survival start with drafting in pawns for
him to use to achieve what he wants, which is nothing more than entertainment
and a position that will make sure he will not be discovered.
After the pawns are obtained and put into play, the next
step is to move them; to manipulate them to gain what the sociopath needs and
what is necessary for him to remain untouched.
Fiona once again says “They can make you feel guilty
for speaking up or not speaking up, for being emotional or not being emotional
enough, for giving and caring, or for not giving and caring enough.”The first
act is to use the people’s conscience against them, and the sociopath is the
best at this for he has not a conscience or guilt to tie him down. After finding
the pawns weakness, he exploits these by pursuing their guilt, anger,
fulfillment, hope, etc. to gain more intimate control of the person.
In the book The
Psychopath Next Door by Martha Stout , it states “The problem
with their game is that we don’t play by their rules” After that the actual
control is implemented. He will use the person by putting them in situation and
doing certain thins to help the sociopath gain what he wants or needs, all the
while tearing down the victim little by little. For example, if the sociopath
gains control over an aggressive, or very violent person, then he could simply
have him kill another who he might have a problem with, or just for the heck of
it and the enjoyment of the monster in which caused this to happen or maybe to
remove a threat.
All in all, the second step is usually the most
destructive and cruel part of his rampage, due to the fact that so many people
get hurt, put through chaos, or even killed.
Finally, after a pawn is used to his full ability, or
just has no further use, is thereof disposed of in any way possible and/or
capable; no matter how inhumane physically or mentally.
One way to set up a victim for disposal is for the
sociopath will “trap” him or her in a situation that they cannot get out of,
then be abandoned by the person they relied on, their “master” as of this
point, and are torn down by their inability to handle what they have gotten
into.
And finally the last scene is entered, and the pawn in
destroyed, mentally and/or physically. After the person is trapped and
abandoned, they start to break down and view themselves as “losing everything”
or just becoming mentally unstable as they are left with no further guidance.
At this point they are broken and torn apart, and the sociopath has no sympathy
for them, as they have no emotion to begin with; they are just another tool
that has been used until it is broken and useless. The sad part being that they
were nothing more than playthings to him, used to satisfy his own entertainment
needs.
With all of this said, there are still those who think
of a sociopath in a different light, that they are just like everyone else
aside from their lack of emotion, and they are just trying to find a way to fit
in; they aren’t all malevolent. This is true, they are not all evil in their
ways, they are just trying to find out how emotion works, but many of them have
the idea of “no emotion to tie them down” go to their head, and they soon think
they are better or more powerful than the average person, causing them to begin
with manipulation.
In the end, no matter motive of the manipulator, the
old pawns are disposed of and replaced with a new more useful set.
A psychopath is a type of human that lacks many
necessary and important human qualities, thus making them more open and free to
do as they please. This makes them highly dangerous given the potential. So in
the future, hope to never cross paths with this kind of person because the
risks are severe and your life could be on the line, be wary.
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